To Raise Happy Kids, Put Your Marriage First

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To Raise Happy Kids, Put Your Marriage First

Drawing on his study of families around the world and the latest research in neuroscience, David Code offers practical tools to nurture joy and harmony at home. Heal your primary relationship, your family, and your life with this vital resource.

All parents want their children to be happy. But many couples today go too far, letting everything revolve around their kids and distancing from each other. This distance hurts the children and the marriage. David Code addresses common, destructive pattern in marriages to help couples balance family relationships, recapture the joy of marriage, and take pride in contented, self-reliant children.

Find out:
How confronting your anxiety liberates your children
Why it's okay to have tough arguments
How reconnecting with your parents can improve your own parenting
Why you already have the perfect spouse

Reviews and endorsements

"I love a book with the thesis in the title and proof of the thesis in the text. Every parent, and every couple, should read this book to prevent them from having an affair with their child(ren). What misery and suffering for all concerned, for generations to come, when couples put their marriage anywhere but first. A must-read."
Harville Hendrix, Ph.D., author of Getting the Love You Want and Giving the Love that Heals: A Guide for Parents

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"As a pediatrician and pain physician, I see many children suffer due to the stress of covert marital discord. When spouses distance from each other they sometimes make their child the center of their lives, which interferes with the natural weaning process essential to healthy development. The best gift you can give your kids is to create a good marriage. David Code, in a step-wise approach, identifies and addresses how one, in a very practical way, can improve their marriage and thus, the entire family. I recommend his book most highly."
David D. Sherry, M.D., professor of pediatrics at University of Pennsylvania Medical School and The Children's Hospital of Philadelphia (ranked #1 in the U.S.)

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"David Code is a big-picture thinker who offers preventive medicine for the American family. He has a gift for translating scientific facts into practical solutions, and his new solutions to common family problems can help solidify your marriage and improve your parenting. You will never look at your family's problems the same way again. This is a powerful contribution towards a new understanding of human behavior in families."
Jaak Panksepp, Ph.D., professor emeritus of psychology, Bowling Green State University; Head of Affective Neuroscience Research, Falk Center for Molecular Therapeutics, Northwestern University; and author of Affective Neuroscience

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"David Code's book provides a win-win solution for the challenges facing today's families. Code makes a compelling argument that putting your marriage first benefits both parents and their children. He explains why good marriages produce good kids, and provides helpful advice for building a strong marriage. I hope his book enjoys a wide readership."
Glenn Firebaugh, Ph.D., professor of sociology, Penn State University; former editor, American Sociological Review

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"Most surgeons across the country today find that over 50% of our patients are taking some type of anti-anxiety drug. David Code offers a brilliant analysis of why we develop anxiety, and how anxiety affects both our marriage and our ability to raise psychologically healthy children. I highly recommend this book."
James W. Serene, M.D., orthopedic surgeon and assistant professor at Penn State Medical School

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"David Code offers a game-changing combination of Bowen family systems theory, brain research, and studies on animal instincts, to help us understand why humans do what we do in families. You'll be glad you read this book."
Peter Titelman, Ph.D., clinical psychologist, editor of Triangles: Bowen Family Systems Theory Perspectives, and Emotional Cutoff

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"Stress has become a pervasive problem for couples struggling to balance the hectic lives of their kids with their own demanding jobs. David Code provides powerful preventive medicine that ‘inoculates’ spouses who are currently doing well, but can benefit from his family-strengthening advice."
Ron Roel, former editor of Newsday

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9780824525385
Paperback / 288 pages
Dimensions: 5.38 x 8.25
CROSSROAD, 2009