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Real Parents, Real Children

Parenting the Adopted Child

Required reading for adoptive families and those exploring the possibility of adopting. Access a wealth of information on the complex emotional issues involved in adoption and get the know-how you need to establish a healthy, loving parent-child relationship.

An indispensable handbook on adoption, Real Parents, Real Children provides insight on what can be a beguiling process. Holly van Gulden brings three decades of experience as an adoption counselor to bear on the challenges and joys of raising an adopted child.

The book walks the reader through the steps of adoption in a clear, reassuring fashion and indicates the kinds of emotional milestones that can emerge for both parents and children. Preplacement and postplacement stress; bonding; grief and loss; identity formation; and the developmental issues that occur at various stages in an adopted child’s life are discussed with depth and sensitivity.

This practical, informative resource will prove invaluable both to parents who have adopted and those considering adoption.

Reviews and endorsements

"Though writing for the adoptive parent, the authors have produced a book that will also be useful for professionals working with adoptive families. One fear among expectant parents is whether they and their child will be close. Adoptive parents ask, 'Can I love an adopted child the same as I would a birth child?' Beginning with bonding of child to parent, the authors do a fine job on the developing child, covering early infancy through adolescence. Leading authority Van Gulden offers practical advice for parents on how to talk with their children about adoption and how to help them through the rougher times of growing up adopted. Highly recommended for academic and public libraries with strong reader interest in this area."
Library Journal

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"Regardless of the details of your adoption, you’ll find issues that concern you in this comprehensive book."
OURS, The Magazine of Adoptive Families

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"Here are insights no adoptive parent can do without. Better get two copies−one for you, and one for the grandparents. Highly recommended."
—PACT, an adoption alliance

"Essential reading for all adoptive parents, those considering adoption, and the professionals who serve these families."
Susan Freivalds, executive director of Adoptive Families of America

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"This book is the ‘Dr. Spock’ of raising adopted children."
Jerri Jenista, M.D.

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"Required reading not only for families but for teachers, pediatricians, lawyers, and other professionals as well as neighbors and extended family members of the adoptive and birth families."
Dr. Joyce Maguire Pavao, president and founder of Center for Family Connections

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"Whether you are considering adoption or have been at it for 27 years, as I have, this book will add to your knowledge and understanding."
Carolyn L. Johnson, executive director, National Adoption Center

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"As a pediatrician, I think this book should be required reading . . . As an adoptive parent . . . well, I think the dog-eared pages, marginal notes, and highlighter speak for themselves. Here is a book that changes things. Don’t miss it!"
Mary Kay Bowen, M.D.

"Though writing for the adoptive parent, the authors have produced a book that will also be useful for professionals working with adoptive families. One fear among expectant parents is whether they and their child will be close. Adoptive parents ask, 'Can I love an adopted child the same as I would a birth child?' Beginning with bonding of child to parent, the authors do a fine job on the developing child, covering early infancy through adolescence. Leading authority Van Gulden offers practical advice for parents on how to talk with their children about adoption and how to help them through the rougher times of growing up adopted. Highly recommended for academic and public libraries with strong reader interest in this area."
Library Journal

,

"Regardless of the details of your adoption, you’ll find issues that concern you in this comprehensive book."
OURS, The Magazine of Adoptive Families

,

"Here are insights no adoptive parent can do without. Better get two copies−one for you, and one for the grandparents. Highly recommended."
—PACT, an adoption alliance


"Essential reading for all adoptive parents, those considering adoption, and the professionals who serve these families."
Susan Freivalds, executive director of Adoptive Families of America

,

"This book is the ‘Dr. Spock’ of raising adopted children."
Jerri Jenista, M.D.

,

"Required reading not only for families but for teachers, pediatricians, lawyers, and other professionals as well as neighbors and extended family members of the adoptive and birth families."
Dr. Joyce Maguire Pavao, president and founder of Center for Family Connections

,

"Whether you are considering adoption or have been at it for 27 years, as I have, this book will add to your knowledge and understanding."
Carolyn L. Johnson, executive director, National Adoption Center

,

"As a pediatrician, I think this book should be required reading . . . As an adoptive parent . . . well, I think the dog-eared pages, marginal notes, and highlighter speak for themselves. Here is a book that changes things. Don’t miss it!"
Mary Kay Bowen, M.D.

9780824515140
Paperback / 288 pages
CROSSROAD, 1995

Dimensions: 6 x 9